Divorce (was: How do you write?

[Rita Winston]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., Jamieson Wolf Villeneuve <crowswolf at s...> 
wrote:

> During this past week and a bit, writing has been an outlet for me.
> My parents are divorcing after twenty years, and I don't think 
> they've stopped to consider how this affects me. 

Dearest Jamieson sweetie, most people who divorce after twenty years 
are in too much pain to consider how it affects ANYONE but 
themselves. A lot of people divorce while they have school-age 
minor children living in their home, emotionally and financially 
dependent on the parents, often with the result of the children 
being forced into poverty, having to move to a new neighborhood or 
new state with the custodial parent, and having to completely 
change their college plans. You can remind yourself that at least you 
are a grown-up, with a home and a partner of your own (and hopefully 
an income of your own) which will not be taken from you by the 
divorce. 

> My mother has left my step dad for another guy and they're now
> living in a trailer park. ::shudder:: 

She must think this other guy is worth it?

> My mother didn't expect me to keep a relationship with my step 
> dad, but I am; so essentially I'm stuck in the middle.

Being stuck in the middle is very unpleasant. I hope you are not in 
the position that happened to a friend of mine, that both her mother 
and her father phoned her a couple of times a day to complain about 
each other: during her college Final Exams week. I expect you will 
find yourself stuck in the middle on future occasions when two 
people who were each your friend before they even met each other 
try to make you take sides in their break-up.