[HPFGU-OTChatter] Re: Divorce (was: How do you write?

[Jamieson Wolf Villeneuve]

Hello Everybody...

Rita Winston wrote:

>
> Dearest Jamieson sweetie,

::blush::

> You can remind yourself that at least you
> are a grown-up, with a home and a partner of your own (and hopefully
> an income of your own) which will not be taken from you by the
> divorce.
>

My partner and I both have our own income, and we keep it that way. Just
for privacy, freedom and security reasons.

Anywho, my Mum divorced my dad before, and I went through it then. I was
five, I think. It just hurts more, because she's hiding the fact that I
am gay from her new guy. "He wouldn't understand, dear." is what she
says. Also, when I phone, I'm not to talk about gay stuff, mention the
fact that I am gay, and she even went so far as to ask me to "sound a
bit more straight" when I phone. Needless to say, I'm crushed, hurt, and
emotionally I'm not all here right now.

Simple things are effecting me a lot more than they would normally,
which is to be expected. Today, my friend Lee said I was getting fat,
and I had to loose weight. I burst out into tears in her kitchen, and
left. I feel like I'm PMS'ing or something.

>
> > My mother has left my step dad for another guy and they're now
> > living in a trailer park. ::shudder::
>
> She must think this other guy is worth it?

Well, aparently my step dad didn't spend every waking moment telling my
Mum how beautiful and wonderful she is. The other guy, Lloyd ::shudder::
does. So, I think he's making her happy cus she feels beautiful with
him. I can't fault her for that.

> Being stuck in the middle is very unpleasant.  I expect you will
> find yourself stuck in the middle on future occasions when two
> people who were each your friend before they even met each other
> try to make you take sides in their break-up.
>
>

Well, my step dad is really helpful lately. We're both talking out our
feelings, and stuff. He's worried about me, cus I'm dealing with some
other emotional issues (the fact that my father was physically/sexually
abusive) on top of this right now, and it's streching me a bit to thin.

My mother is phoning a lot, and so is my step dad. But I feel like the
parent, laying down ground rules for converstation with my Mum. It feels
odd that I have to be the mature one.

Sorry for laying this on all of you guys, but I'm in a bit of a downer
mood today. I just need to get it out. Know what I mean?

thanx for listening....

Jamieson
--

"Many that live deserve death.
And some that die deserve life.
Can you give it to them? Then
do not be too eager to deal out death
in judgement." - Gandalf (The Fellowship
of the Ring by J.R.R. Tolkien)

--

Transported to a surreal landscape,
a young girl kills the first woman she
meets and thenteams up with three complete
strangers to kill again. - Marin County
newspaper's TV listing for
The Wizard of Oz

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