I need help...

[prefectmarcus at yahoo.com]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., carebair_23 at y... wrote:
> I am about to have a problem...My older sister is coming to my HP 
> themed birthday party on Sunday.  The problem with that is my 
sister 
> is against all things Harry Potter.  She has this whole black magic 
> view and I know I am going to have to field accusations and double-
> edged questions.  I was wondering if anyone could provide me with 
any 
> advice on how to deal with this.  I am not sure I want to spend my 
> 21st birthday defending my newest obsession.  I would be greatful 
for 
> any advice that you could throw my way...
> 
> Thanks much,
> Raechel Elizabeth~*

"Advise is free, and you get what you pay for."

Raechel, you are now 21.  It is your life and your party.  If your 
sister has a problem with that, then tough toe-nails.

Now, having said that; you have to respect her feelings as much as 
she needs to respect yours.  So by all means let her know of the 
Harry Potter theme before hand.  Maybe prepare a face-saving way out 
for her.  Make sure she knows that she is welcome to come to the 
party, and you would look forward to her being there.  

DON'T GET INTO AN ARGUMENT!!  That is the worst thing you could do.  
It would only create ill feelings, and it would reinforce her 
feelings that Harry Potter is not a good thing.  If she expresses 
concern about it, say something to the effect, "I'm sorry you feel 
that way, but I still would love you to come."  If she still refuses 
to come, it is her choice.  She has just as much right to her opinion 
and freedom of choice as you do, and you must respect that.  

Good luck!

Marcus