[HPFGU-OTChatter] Re: Confessions of a Stepford wife (was Names)

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  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: Rita Winston 
  To: HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com 
  Sent: Saturday, May 19, 2001 7:17 PM
  Subject: [HPFGU-OTChatter] Re: Confessions of a Stepford wife (was Names)


  --- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., aichambaye at y... wrote:

  > Me, I went from Heather A. Denton to Heather A. D. Mbaye. (snip)
  >  Now I have a cool academic name.

  (snip)
  What I accidentally left out of the previous post (it isn't really 
  relevant to this post) is that Miss Manners wrote that people can do 
  whatever they want to their own names, but the actual rule of 
  etiquette is to CHANGE the last name, that is, keep first and middle 
  names, drop maiden name, add husband's surname. That is only one of 
  a myriad of examples in which what EVERYONE does is opposite of what 
  Miss Manners say is etiquette.


  I always thought that that was the way it was done.  My best friend, who's 30, took her husband's name and kept her maiden name as the middle name.  My mother, who was married in 1960, did the same.  in fact, I'm named after her and I'm called by my middle name which is her maiden name.  You see, her first name is Elizabeth and she's called Betty.  She was afraid that if they called me Elizabeth as well, I'd end up being "little Betty," and she did NOT want to be known as "Big Betty."

  ender
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