Birthdays and such...

[Doreen Rich]

Are they good to him the rest of the year? Or do they just not have 
anything to do with him... or what? I know this is nosy. If they are 
good the rest of the year ... why not just be blunt and TELL them how 
much they are hurting their dad? Send them a copy of this letter ... 
show them that he cried when someone, anyone acknowledged him on 
Father's Day. My dad died four years ago. I was with him almost every 
day for three months before he died... and my mom, son, and I did 
anything and everything we could to make each minute of every day 
special. (we all had a good relationship before this too) When he 
died, I still had regrets over "things I didn't get done" or "things 
I didn't get to tell him" ... but I didn't have to grieve that I was 
not the best daughter that I could be and one of the things that I 
never got to tell him was, thankfully, NOT how much I loved him. Tell 
his kids to WAKE UP before it is too late. I wonder how many people 
grieve for the dead person and how many people are grieving for the 
unsaid and undone things that are now too late?

Doreen


--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., pbnesbit at m... wrote:
> --- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., "Jennifer Piersol" <jenP_97 at y...> 
wrote:
> 
> (First part snipped)
> > > Jen (who is glad it's not her birthday anymore, but hopes she 
> gets a 
> > gift soon - and wonders if her husband had intended on giving her 
> one 
> > for Mothers' Day any time this year...)
> > 
> > (did that sound incredibly selfish?)
> 
> 
> Jen, 
> 
> A belated Happy Birthday!  Go out and buy yourself something nice 
> from you to you.  
> 
> I can relate:  not because my husband forgets my birthday (he 
doesn't 
> forget my birthday or Valentine's Day!) but because his children 
> forget his.  No card, no gift, no nothing.  It hurts *me* to see 
him 
> ignored.  
> 
> For Father's Day, I always give him a gift from our cat and dog.  I 
> know it doesn't entirely make up for being ignored by his children, 
> but it helps. (2 years ago one of our then-bosses gave him a 
Father's 
> Day gift--her acknowledgment brought tears to his eyes.) 
> 
> Peace & Plenty, 
> 
> Parker