Confessions of a Stepford wife (was Names)
Amy Z
aiz24 at hotmail.com
Wed May 23 20:38:47 UTC 2001
Amanda, who has never struck me as the Stepford wife type, wrote:
> And to be honest, I like being someone's wife. Publicly. Someone I
love
> chose me! Forever! I want people to know. Damn straight I'll carry
his
> name, and go by "Mrs."; my pride in it equals his humility in
offering
> it.
Yeah, I like that too. I just wish there were a way for both people
to do that. That's why I like it when both people hyphenate their
names--that's so lovely: to take on a piece of each other's
identities. Still, my dh and I could've done that and chose not to.
Maybe if we have kids.
And I still think it would be really nice if men changed their titles
upon marrying. Anyone want to coin a Married Mr.?
> The point is that I hardly
ever
> hear anyone speaking about taking their husband's name as anything
but
> an antiquated imposition.
How come even though I live in the supposedly ultraliberal Northeast
and you live in supposedly ultra-reactionary Texas, I know almost
nobody who speaks about it this way? For that matter, I know almost
no married women who did anything other than take their husband's
name. Those who hyphenate, keep their maiden names, or do anything
like that are very much in the minority and seem to be likely to
remain so for a long time.
Carole wrote:
> I took my
> husband's last name for 3 reasons. 1) I was never fond of my maiden
> name (its rather odd, and I got teased a lot about it when I was
> young) and 2) it is a whole lot less complicated when you have
> kids. My sister changed her last name after a divorce, has since
> remarried (twice) but kept her "purchased" last name (went through
> the whloe court thing) "I paid good money for this name, I'll be
> damned if I'm going to change it now" and 3)I got to move up in the
> alphabet..from S to E. I don't have to wait as long for my name to
> be called!
LOL! Shortly before I got married, my brothers-in-law-to-be sat me
down and said "Are you planning to change your name?" I wasn't sure
what the right answer was, but I said, "Uh, no, actually, wasn't
planning on it." They said "GOOD!" and proceeded to tell me all the
reasons why no one should be cursed with their last name unless he/she
was unfortunate enough to be born with it. The primary one was that
it rhymes with all sorts of unfortunate things that get you ridiculed
on the playground (I wonder if they'd endorse our giving our kids my
last name on that logic?). That wasn't my reasoning, but it was
pretty funny.
My name is no beauty, and I came in for my share of teasing based on
it too, but I can't say I've ever minded being low on the list
alphabetically. I suppose when you're an S you're just low on the
list, but when you're a Z you're gloriously, distinctively last. Plus
it's kind of nifty having the initials AZ.
AZ
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