Confessions of a Stepford wife (was Names)
Doreen Rich
nera at rconnect.com
Thu May 24 13:23:58 UTC 2001
Sure... get us all curious ... and then don't tell us *what* the
names are that you all are writing about. Bad ... very bad.
Doreen, ever curious
--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., "Amy Z" <aiz24 at h...> wrote:
> Amanda, who has never struck me as the Stepford wife type, wrote:
>
> > And to be honest, I like being someone's wife. Publicly. Someone
I
> love
> > chose me! Forever! I want people to know. Damn straight I'll
carry
> his
> > name, and go by "Mrs."; my pride in it equals his humility in
> offering
> > it.
>
> Yeah, I like that too. I just wish there were a way for both
people
> to do that. That's why I like it when both people hyphenate their
> names--that's so lovely: to take on a piece of each other's
> identities. Still, my dh and I could've done that and chose not
to.
> Maybe if we have kids.
>
> And I still think it would be really nice if men changed their
titles
> upon marrying. Anyone want to coin a Married Mr.?
>
> > The point is that I hardly
> ever
> > hear anyone speaking about taking their husband's name as
anything
> but
> > an antiquated imposition.
>
> How come even though I live in the supposedly ultraliberal
Northeast
> and you live in supposedly ultra-reactionary Texas, I know almost
> nobody who speaks about it this way? For that matter, I know
almost
> no married women who did anything other than take their husband's
> name. Those who hyphenate, keep their maiden names, or do anything
> like that are very much in the minority and seem to be likely to
> remain so for a long time.
>
> Carole wrote:
>
> > I took my
> > husband's last name for 3 reasons. 1) I was never fond of my
maiden
> > name (its rather odd, and I got teased a lot about it when I was
> > young) and 2) it is a whole lot less complicated when you have
> > kids. My sister changed her last name after a divorce, has since
> > remarried (twice) but kept her "purchased" last name (went
through
> > the whloe court thing) "I paid good money for this name, I'll be
> > damned if I'm going to change it now" and 3)I got to move up in
the
> > alphabet..from S to E. I don't have to wait as long for my name
to
> > be called!
>
> LOL! Shortly before I got married, my brothers-in-law-to-be sat me
> down and said "Are you planning to change your name?" I wasn't
sure
> what the right answer was, but I said, "Uh, no, actually, wasn't
> planning on it." They said "GOOD!" and proceeded to tell me all
the
> reasons why no one should be cursed with their last name unless
he/she
> was unfortunate enough to be born with it. The primary one was
that
> it rhymes with all sorts of unfortunate things that get you
ridiculed
> on the playground (I wonder if they'd endorse our giving our kids
my
> last name on that logic?). That wasn't my reasoning, but it was
> pretty funny.
>
> My name is no beauty, and I came in for my share of teasing based
on
> it too, but I can't say I've ever minded being low on the list
> alphabetically. I suppose when you're an S you're just low on the
> list, but when you're a Z you're gloriously, distinctively last.
Plus
> it's kind of nifty having the initials AZ.
>
> AZ
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