Birthdays and such...

[Doreen Rich]

When we first started dating we would always
celebrate with a picnic (we used to live near a huge
park) and he would always bring a 2 layer carrot cake
with cream cheese frosting

Sheryll
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What about doing your cake & celebration early, when he has the time? 
Tell him how you used to love it when you did so ... ask if you can 
do it again before he leaves. Or ... buy a cake and invite him on a 
picnic .. or bake it yourself.

I used to be really bad about "wishing that my husband would do this 
or do that.." I was too stubborn to just tell him how I felt or just 
ask him if he would. I thought that if he cared about me the way I 
cared about him, he would just somehow *know* these things ... I 
think a lot of women have these romantic notions and think their men 
have them too. Well, I have learned, over the years, that there are 
usually (notice I said usually....don't want to include those 
thoughtful, romantic men in my statement...they ARE out there)only 
two things on men's minds: sex or sports, not necessarily in that 
order.

My dad was one of the most wonderful men in the world... good 
husband, good father, good provider, yada, yada, yada. But, he was 
terrible at remembering birthdays and such. I used to have to help 
him. I would circle my mom's birthday in big red on the calender. I 
left notes to my dad on his car visor. One time, just knowing that he 
had forgotten my mom's birthday, I sent her roses *from him* and got 
us BOTH in trouble! I signed the card, "Love, Duane" and he had 
always signed it "love Duey" Plus, he walked into the house and 
asked, "Who are the flowers from?" (I didn't catch him in time to 
tell him...I was driving down their hill as he was driving up their 
hill, on his way to get her something *from* him)

I guess, with all this rambling, I am just saying, "TALK to him. TELL 
him how you feel" ... otherwise, he is going to go about his business 
thinking all is well, while you are in the bedroom all teary over his 
forgetfulness and inconsiderations.

Doreen, been there, done that, made a mess of it.