guys being asked to help

[davewitley]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., "pippin_999" <foxmoth at q...> wrote:

> This could be one  of those gender communications gap things: 
> men don't pitch in before they're asked because that would be a 
> negative comment on your competency. Sometimes it works to 
> redistribute the tasks as a whole rather than try to get them to 
> "help".
>
I think dropping us in at the deep end and letting us mess up can be 
quite useful too.  Years of being at home with the kids while I was 
out at work left Ruth a far more efficient home worker and child 
minder than me.

When I have to do something it's painful for her to watch me trying 
to find the things she has put away, get out the stuff organised to a 
fine pitch in my absence etc.  So she has trouble not just taking 
over because it's easier in the short term.

David