Dishes (was: Re: guys being asked to help)

[davewitley]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., Sheryll Townsend <s_ings at y...> wrote:
> 
> Btw, the dishes thing is my big one because Andy has
> one habit when doing them that annoys me to no end.
> I've mentioned it to him, but that didn't seem to get
> through. When he has an order for a cake, he will wash
> up after he bakes. However, if there are any other
> dirty dishes in the kitchen he leaves them for me.
> I've seen him remove a couple of plates and glasses
> from the sink so he has room to wash his baking stuff,
> then put them back in the sink when he's done and just
> leave them there. Hello? 
> 
You mentioned it and it didn't get through, eh?  Could he be 
pretending it didn't get through?

What he may be figuring is that if he does some of your dishes, that 
would be setting a precedent (he might in fact be quite willing to do 
them more than he does), and then he would *have* to do them as a 
rule.  Permanent shift in the balance.  He can't reasonably say to 
your face that he's not going to do them, so he becomes unaccountably 
deaf and forgetful.

In general where there is any job that needs doing, the one who needs 
it less is in the stronger negotiating position for division of 
labour and kudos for doing it.  Hence Jenny's relative ease at 
getting Raul to pitch in.

Slobs rule

David