Lupin

[moongirlk]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., "lupinesque" <aiz24 at h...> wrote:
> Rita wrote:
> 
> > I fancy Remus 
> > because he is kind and competent and responsible, and I want 
*him* 
> to 
> > take care of *me* ... when us readers listened in on him teaching 
> > the third-year Gryffindors, being gentle and helpful with Neville 
> and 
> > supportive of Harry, I imagined someone treating *me* with so 
much 
> > kindness, and immediately was fallen...
> 

Amy added:
> Yup, that's me too.  I do like that he needs some looking-after 
> himself, but this would be distinctly *un*appealing were it not for 
> the fact that he is obviously a very strong, kind person who has 
done 
> a very good job of looking after himself all these years.  

Exactly - the desire to take care of him a little is there, mostly 
because he doesn't *need* it in the functional sense, but he *lacks* 
it on an emotional level, and maybe doesn't even think about it 
anymore, since as far as we know that's just the way it's always 
been.  And I definitely dig the danger lurking under the surface 
thing, but I'm not talking about the werewolf situation really - if 
you've missed it on the main list, check out the Lupin's Edge thread 
for an explanation.  But the fact is that the clincher lies in the 
fact that despite having had a pretty rotten life and depite having a 
certain Edge, he's able to be this kind, caring person.  He didn't go 
the bullied-becomes-bully route.  From his rough life he's chosen to 
learn compassion and he chooses to use his great insight to single 
out those who need compassion (like Neville and Harry).  There's just 
so much to admire there, and his failings (not being honest with 
Dumbledore) somehow make him all the more appealing.  A tragic and 
heroic figure without such failings would be too lofty and 
unattainable to really touch the hearts of all the Lupin-lovers, I 
think, so that's where the vulnerability comes in.

So, I bet Gulplum/Richard's wishing he'd never started down this 
path, and all the guys are groaning at us silly girls, but that's the 
scoop, at least from my perspective.  Lupin-lovers would like to take 
care of him a little (in my case to try to ease his guilty feelings 
and show him all the good he does), but we also want to bask in some 
of that thoughtful, perceptive kindness we've witnessed.  

kimberly
a sucker for a guy who's good to children and animals.