Underachievers Anonymous

[cindysphynx]

Kimberly wrote:

>The single girl gets dumped at least as 
> often as vice versa, and not just when couples have kids.  

Ahem.  There's no denying it.  There's a huge transition that 
happens once members of a group start marrying.  Especially once the 
kids come.  

But speaking in mild defense of the marrieds-with-kids group, it's 
very difficult to maintain the old friendships.  You now have this 
kid who sucks up the time that used to be spent maintaining contact 
with your single friends.  They're not all that interested in one of 
the most important things in your life (the kid) and you're less 
interested in the things you all used to do, largely because you 
can't do them anymore anyway because of the kid.  

I have had kids for a good long while now, and I no longer have 
*any* single adult friends.  I have a few divorced friends with 
kids, but that's it.  It really is a lack of time on my part to some 
extent.  But something else is at work -- my perception that single 
people won't be interested in the things that interest me.  Also, it 
takes a really special single or childless friend who can even 
tolerate an evening at my house, what with all of the noise and 
chaos.  

All of that makes it very hard to maintain the old ties.

Cindy