the whole kid thing

[tomatogrower88]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com, "joywitch_m_curmudgeon" 
<joym999 at a...> wrote:




> 
> But is that enough to make me want one of my own?  No, I don't think 
> so.  I just don't have enough personal desire to reproduce for it to 
> make sense.  Is there any societal need?  IMO, the last thing the 
> world needs is more people in it.  However, there is a societal need 
> to take care of the world's many neglected kids, and I've given a 
lot 
> of serious consideration to adopting a kid.  I like the idea of 
> adopting an older kid, to avoid the baby stage, and to rescue some 
> unhappy soul from her cupboard under the stairway.
> 
> A lot of people I tell that to are really appalled by this. (Most 
are 
> supportive, though.)  Some people just can't imagine raising 
"someone 
> else's child."  They seem to have this idea that child-raising 
> involves possession, and molding this little person in your own 
> image.  IMO, this is a lot of the motivation for a lot of people who 
> have kids, and it's one I don't share.  I don't even think it's 
> healthy.  How many of us resent our parents' continuing efforts to 
> mold our lives?  (I thought so.)  
> 
> That's why I want to adopt an older kid.  I don't want to raise a 
> little duplicate Joybaby, I just want to provide a home to someone 
> who needs it.  (And yes, I know there can be a lot of difficulties 
> with a adopting neglected child, but that's another question 
> altogether.)
> 
> And there's a million other ifs, ands and buts here.  If I had a 
> partner who had kids, or wanted kids, it would probably change my 
> feelings and would certainly change my options.  And, in the 
unlikely 
> event that I accidently got pregnant, barring medical complications 
> (somewhat likely, at my age) I would just go ahead and have a baby.
> 
> But to have kids, just because that's what you're "supposed" to do? 
 
> Seems stupid, to me.
> 
> --Joywitch, still a Curmudgeon, I suppose.



I feel so strongly on the issue of adoption. I have seen so many 
childern who need to be offered  a chance. I think adopting a child is 
a wonderful thing. Many children are unable to be adopted because they 
are older and do have problems due to the abuse or neglect they have 
suffered. I think that if you have the time, love and willingness to 
deal with the problems an older child might have you should do it. I  
enjoy reading you posts Joywitch, so stay a cumudgeon please.

Myrth, whoses tomatos are finally doing well.