Various Couplethinking Responses

[Catherine Coleman <catherine@cator-manor.demon.co.uk>]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com, "ssk7882 <skelkins at a...>" 
<skelkins at a...> wrote:

> Ebony wrote:
> 
> > If there is any area of friendship I'd most like to experience, 
> > it's a completely platonic relationship with a straight guy.  
> 
> Interesting, that, because for whatever strange reason, the vast 
> majority of my completely platonic relationships have always been 
> with straight guys.  It's friendships with straight women that 
I've 
> not had much experience with in the past, which is part of what 
> makes this on-line community so very exciting for me.  
> 
> 
> Elkins

A resounding "me too" to Ebony's comment.  Before I met my husband, 
I had several straight male friends.  People that I really loved, 
who I'd known for years - people that I thought I'd know for ever.  
And you know what, since I got married, they've all disappeared.  I 
caught up with one of them last weekend - he responded to my 
Christmas card and called me, and we were on the telephone for over 
3 hours, but I still got the feeling that it was a one off.  I still 
have very close gay male friends, but as for the rest...  I still 
can't figure out why it happened, but other married friends have 
told me that it's always the way.

Why?

I also agree with Elkins' comments.  In the past, most of my friends 
have been male;  I have one very close female friend who I have 
known since I started college and that is it.  The number of people 
I have met and formed friendships with since I joined HPFGU has been 
a wonderful experience for me.  I love it.

Catherine