Various Couplethinking Responses

[nithya_rachel <nithya_rachel@hotmail.com>]

Acire wrote:

> My mother constantly tells me that if I am not more romantic 
> towards my boyfriend, I will end up alone and bitter...

>Elkins: <winces>
>Youch. You too, eh? I had a college lecturer once who told me that 
>I was an angry young woman and "like all angry young women, you will 
>die bitter and alone." Now, isn't that just lovely.

>My parents, on the other hand, insisted that I would end up badly not
>because I was angry, but rather, because I was selfish, 
manipulative, 
>inconsiderate and ungrateful, as well as probably incapable of real 
>love; because I take, take, take, while never giving back a thing in 
>return; and because while I might be able to fool some of the people 
>some of the time with my appealing (yet fundamentally shallow) 
>charismatics, in the end everyone would see through my little scam 
>and perceive me for the errant fraud that I really am.

<looks around household, checks watch. Raises eyebrow. Shrugs.>

>Well, would you look at that! It really *is* taking them a long time
>to catch on to my little game, isn't it?
>I'm taking a light tone here, but those kinds of parental scripts 
>really can leave marks, I know. Don't let them scare you too much, 
>okay?


Thanks Elkins....I get that all the time too, but from a completely 
different angle. It appears that I'm going to be bitter and
single since I'm too idealistic, can't really love someone I
don't look up to, am too independent minded and self-sufficient
to have people really connect with me deep down – and though I
have a plenty of good friends, am destined to be single since I
can't
go beyond friendship in any relationship. Sigh. Don't you dare
tell
me my friends don't connect with me! 

As for platonic relationships, I have plenty of all varities...maybe 
thats why I'm a non-shipper within the trio - the freedom to be 'just 
friends' seems the rarest of them all.

Nithya.