Sloppy people and Liars (help!)
phoenix_suzaku18
phoenix_suzaku18 at yahoo.com
Fri Nov 7 15:12:04 UTC 2003
I currently live at home with my mother and younger sister. Last July
we moved in with my mom's boyfriend, Tom, and his two children.
I am 20, and going part-time to college. My sis is 19, and working.
Tom's children are Shane 18, and Andrea 15. I have huge problems
dealing with their behavior. Shane says up all night. His waking
hours are between 4:30pm-8:30am. Which is fine for him, because he
works 4 days a week from 5 until 11pm. He has not graduated from high
school, nor does he have a drivers license. My sister or I end up
driving him to work. Anyway, to the problems... Shane's room is an
experiment in SLOTH. Cigatrette packs and Coke cans litter every
surface, including the bed. Since moving in, he has not changed his
sheets. He showers once every 3 days, despite being a fry cook. I
pick up litter around the house after him and his sister; banana
peels, used tissues, cigarette butts (on the floor! we have ash
trays!!), you name it. Also, I've caught him lying several times.
Examples: Just 5 days ago my mom had purchased a carton of Tom's
favorite cookies for him, and hid them in our pantry. They had yet to
be opened. Yesterday, I found the carton w/only 4 cookies (out of 33)
left next to the computer where he spends each night. I regularly
bake cookies- a variety too- and Shane had plenty of food options.
Last night as I was baking more, Shane inquired "what kind are
those?". I told him and said, "You could have one if you like". He
replied "Thanks, but it better be just one, otherwise I'll carbo-load
and get fat."
I said, "Like last night, eh?" Shane, "Yeah, I ate like
half a box of cookies." Me, "What do you mean? there were only 4
left?" denial denial denial GRRRRRRRRRR...etc...
.....His dad, Tom, was missing his last 2 packs of cigarettes last
week. My sister and I do not smoke. Tom asked everyone where they had
gone. No one fessed up. My mom did know who, but for fear of
embarassing Shane did not say anything in front of everyone. The day
before he had told my mom that he was out of cigarettes, and would
have to pay his dad back, because he had taken 2
packs.
Why would someone lie like this? I have been raised to be very
honest, and can't comprehend why anyone would go out of their way to
lie like that. I do understand that these examples are not severe,
only severely annoying. Plus his lack of personal hygiene makes
everything bad about him seem
worse.
Does anyone have any advice?
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