Sloppy people and Liars (help!)

[Steve]

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> I am 20, and going part-time to college. My sis is 19, and working. 
> Tom's children are Shane 18, and Andrea 15. I have huge problems 
> dealing with their behavior. 
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bboy_mn:

A man is walk through the desert miles from any person living or dead.
Suddenly, he hears something crunch under his foot. He looks down and
sees a crisp new one hundred dollar bill. Question, does he keep it?
...and why?

He keeps it. Why? Because he can.

Why doesn't your step-brother clean up after himself? Becasue he can.
Because other people will clean up for him. Why doesn't he get a
drivers license because he doesn't need to. 

A few things you need to remember, first is that you are NOT THE
PARENT, so your part in all this is limited. However, you do live
there, and his behavior affects the quality of your life. So while 
your say is limited, but you do have some say.

In my family, it's my neice, she's a irresponsible druggy. She has
three kids, they've been taken away several times. One daughter has
never lived with her, the other is constantly neglected, and now she
just had another baby, on top of which she's been arrested several
times this year.

She has taken advantage of and manipulated everyone in here life until
we have had no choice but to step away, and force her to live with her
mistakes. So, her kids are in foster care right now because all her
family, who live in the same town by the way, refused to take them in.
We do love the kids dearly, but if we take them again, it just makes
it too easy for her to dump them on us when ever they become
inconvinient. So, this way, she has to live with the fact that the
county came and took her kids way and put them in foster care. It hurt
us deeply to allow that to happen, but as long as we keep insulating
her from the consequences of her action, she will never learn.

I think you and your natural brothers and sister should set your
step-father and mother down, and tell them how you feel. I wouldn't
say it in a way that makes it sound like you are making demands. Just
say, this is what's happening, this is how it negatively affects your
life, this is how we feel, and then let them do whatever they will do.
Mostly don't let it become emotional and heated. If it starts to get
out of control, you have to just collectively walk away.

Until your step-brother is willing to help himself, he is a drag on
all the people around him.

Just a thought.

bboy_mn