What's Love Got To Do With It?

[Cindy C.]

Gee, whiz!  You guys are amazing!  So many sweet and touching thoughts
already.  I can't even think of anything to say in response to Tammy's
beautiful post.

Man, this is gonna be difficult, as "sweet and touching" aren't
usually something I do very often or very well.  ;-)

Eloise:

>I seriously do think that persistence in the face of difficulties and 
> forbearance of one's partner's more irritating traits are >significant. 

Boy, ain't it the truth!

Thinking back on when I first met dh, I remember that it was *not*
love at first sight.  I had no romantic interest in dh, because I was
busy pursuing the Man Who Was All Wrong For Me.

But as time passed, I saw something in dh.  He was able to bring out
the best in me, for some reason, which is a tall order.  I was just a
better person with him than without him.  Not to mention that I could
tell he would make a great husband and father.  The love was there by
the time we married, but it definitely built over time.  And it still is.

That's why I always raise an eyebrow when a girlfriend tells me she
doesn't want to date a guy because he's "just a friend."  Personally,
I can't think of a better place to find a suitable mate than one's
friends.

Eloise:

> I know that *I've* been difficult. I know that my husband often 
> finds me difficult. 

You know, I've noticed that both of us are much more tolerant of each
others' quirks than we once were.  I don't know why this is, really. 
I attribute it to exhaustion.  Squabbling is so much *work!*

Eloise:

> I have to tell you that we, or at least I, have gone through bad
>patches.  

Oh, sure!  We all do.  For me, I've started to realize that bad
patches come with the territory.  It's kind of like a roller coaster
-- you know that when you go down, you'll always come back up.  So it
becomes easier to persevere.

<winks at Eloise because I know how much she *doesn't* like roller
coasters>

Pippin advised:

>Get your rings resized if you like them, I did.

I know, I know.  But I play the piano, see?  And my rings used to spin
around when I played and drive me *nuts* -- I have large knuckles, so
rings flop around once they are seated on my finger.  And I would
sometimes be unable to wrench the rings off before I played, and I
would be afraid I'd lose them if I did wrench them off, so . . . .

No?   Not buying it?

Darn!


Jen wrote:

>You always think of such interesting things to start a conversation,
>Cindy!

Hey, thanks!  Actually, if the conversations get interesting, it's
because you all are so very cool!


For those keeping score, though:

Pippin -- 27
Tammy -- 18.5
Eloise -- 18
Sandy -- 18
Anna -- 14.5
Linlou -- 13.5
Cindy -- 13
Dumbledad -- almost 13
Jen -- 8
Shirley -- 1
Alice -- 4 days and counting  :-)



And Shirley?

Here's one thing to keep in mind during the bad patches:

*He didn't mean it!*  :-D


Cindy -- feeling soppy her own self, but not admitting it, and whose
dh will be away all weekend  :-(