I Just Don't Get This. Seriously, I Don't/Admin.'s Apology

[msbeadsley]

I thought I was done; but for the sake of clarity...

> Second, I have read Sandy's post several times, and I'm a bit
> confused.  I'm having some trouble figuring out which parts are
> critical of me and which parts are referring to someone else,
> especially since Debbie's apology came after my public statement.  

Everything but the paragraph which begins "(T)o that someone else" 
was written with you in mind. (What followed that para was intended 
to apply equally to you and "that someone else.")

My point was that you were right before you got the apology; Amanda's 
(granted somewhat surly) retraction *gave* you that. See, the way I 
figure it, you had the "moral high ground." But instead of using that 
vantage to gain perspective on the overall picture, you used it as a 
launch position to make sure everyone *knew* how right you were and 
how wrong Amanda et al had been. You had a marvelous opportunity to 
actually be better than merely right, and you blew it. <Just my 
opinion.> (Sometimes, when it's that plain that *I'm* right, I love 
to apologize immediately and fulsomely. Drives the other side nuts 
<g>. So I'm really sorry for criticizing you...kidding!)

> I will say this, then.  The reason that I felt I needed to say
> something publicly is quite simple:  I was being *blown off* in my
> attempts to discuss this matter with the elves off-list.  Had the
> apology come in response to my off-list notes, there would have been
> no reason to say anything publicly.  I thought this matter was
> important, and I could not seem to get the list administrators to
> understand that something needed to be done about it.  

You *perceived* that you were being "blown off." Had you come at me 
with the righteous attitude you demonstrated in your two and a half 
page (I printed it out) post, I'd have avoided you (at the very 
least), too, at least long enough to figure out what the heck I was 
going to do about it. In their shoes, I might have even sent off 
something really unfortunate if I'd responded immediately, either a 
flat denial or just *anything* to hold you off until I had a plan. 
And I'm just one person, with just one mind (most days, please ghod)
to make up. You were dealing with a group; and you insisted on the 
attention you were demanding on *your* timetable. (While it might 
have been a courtesy for the Admin. team to send you a "please hold," 
email, personally, I'd have been inclined to fear such a thing would 
have driven you to greater heights on the moral high ground. Like a 
response of, "I don't know what you need any more time for; I'm 
*right*--just apologize to me *right now*!")

Ever hear of a Pyrrhic victory?

Sandy