I Just Don't Get This. Seriously, I Don't/Admin.'s Apology

[msbeadsley]

Sigh. I owe a couple of people apologies. And not the fulsome kind. 

I misinterpreted what Jenny said; while I thought she was being 
provoked and having a case of sour grapes about not getting an elf 
hat, instead she was miffed that she had made a genuine offer of 
useful (as she has quals) assistance in the face of apparent need and 
it was, as far as she could tell, utterly ignored. Not only did she 
not flame me for misconstruing what she said, she has been absolutely 
darling off-list; I'm now trying to talk her into starting a Harry 
Potter role-playing group with me and she's not throwing pie in my 
face or anything, and gracefully overlooked my offer of an apology. 
Thank you, Jenny, and I'm sorry.

After an exchange of several emails, Cindy has now blocked my ability 
to communicate with her off-list (and suggested anything further I 
had to say be said here. If my goal was truly to get her to 
reconsider, to reframe, recent events, then it appears I failed. And 
if my motives were, even in part, baser (and I fear that to some 
degree this is true), then shame on me; as neither of the people I 
dissed elected to chew me out (nor did the powers that be), I shall 
have to do it myself, to the extent which feels educational. No fun, 
but nothing new. Welcome to the human race, me. Again.) As far as I 
can tell, Cindy perceives that I simply attacked her, unfairly and 
without provocation. I doubt that anything else got through. That is 
not an acceptable outcome to me, for while I am not *unwilling* to 
offend (who, me?), I try not to have it be about target practice. 
Cindy: what I wanted to provoke you to was thought, to seeing things 
differently, and I didn't do that. I suspect I did something very 
different. I'm sorry. You *were* right. And I was, well...wrong.

Sandy, muttering, "'Nuff said, already."