"You're Just Selfish!" (WAS moved from Main List: on not having children)

[pengolodh_sc]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com, alex fox wrote:
> In this day and age, the father and mother are/or HAVE to be,
> equal care-givers, and both parents have to work to support the
> family. Does that make the father enlisting in the service
> "child abuse"? Possibly the father has a job that is better
> suited to time with the kids. The mom possibly has the
> availability to do the job that has all the government benefits,
> which will help the entire family. IMHO. 
>  
> Alex Fox

I think Kari was referring to single mothers who themselves are 
enlisted in the armed forces.  And I think Rita is right - these wll 
be cases of single mothers being left with the armed forces as the one 
job-possibility where they get a decent outcome (and even a decent 
insurance-plan so that there is something left for the child, should 
something happen), and also get help to get into college afterwards.  
Then it is a calculated risk - "will USA get into a war while I am 
enlisted, and will my unit be called up to take part in such a 
conflict".  I am wondering if also some of those military mothers have 
been part of the reserve-forces, which have been called up for the 
recent conflict.

Best regards
Christian Stubø