Inappropriate content accessed from JKR.com

[Steve]

---  "Argus Pyrites" <o_secca at ...> wrote:
>
> Argus Pyrites Writes:
> 
> ...
> 
> ... at jkrowling.com ... you click on the link that 
> takes you to Immeritus.
> 
> ... You spot a link named "Fandom Glossary". You only 
> know so much about Fanfics, so are curious. You click. 
> A large type warning in red states "THIS GLOSSARY 
> CONTAINS GRAPHIC ADULT CONTENT". Even more curious, 
> you proceed. Say you click on :F:
> 
> ...
> Felching 
(added:/a particularly gross form of oral stimulation/)
> Femmeslash 
> Frottage 
> ...
>
> Umm... ... several of them are *quite* rude. 
> ... 
> Then I imagined my 11 year old daughter ... doing what 
> I just did. I am *not* ready to discuss Felching with 
> my 11 year old!
> 

bboyminn:

Here's the thing, at the top of the page is a warning, as 
soon as your child saw that she should have moved on. It
should have been a sign to her that this material was
inappropriate. Simple as that.

It's like when a TV show comes on that you think is 
inappropriate, you can sit and whine, or you can change
channels. It is not up to the world to protect you, it
is up to you to protect yourself and your family, and
you do that by following the advise below.

This IS precisely what you need to talk to your daughter 
about, and you really should have done it long before now.
When ever she finds herself confronted with inappropriate
behavior or material in real life or on the internet, you
should have told her long ago, what you think her proper 
response should be. 

She may be confronted by bullies at school, what does she
do? She may soon be at a party where kids are drinking, 
how is she suppose to react? She may soon be offerred 
drugs, how does she deal with it? She may soon be 
enticed into actions of a sexual nature, how is she 
suppose to respond? You /assume/ she knows, but have you
actually told her, and is what you told her a genuine 
logical realistic strategy to cope with these situations?

Too many parent, and admittedly I can't speak of you 
personally, assume their children know these things, too
many parents assume their children have pick up their 
values by osmosis, but if you aren't directy and bluntly
expressing your views and giving your child guidance then 
you are failing as a parent.

So, if you have raised your daughter right, and have 
clearly expressed your views on the many social dilemmas
that every kid eventually faces, then you have nothing to
worry about.

One last point, it's not up to you to decide when your
daughter should learn about 'felching', it's up to her.
When the time comes, she will learn one way or the other,
whether you are ready or not. Though, I sincerely hope
she is never ready to learn that particular term. 

That is the way a free society works. PARENTS actually 
(not by assumption, but by direct action) instill values
in their children then trust that their children will 
make the right decisions. Instilling of values is NOT a
long list of "DON'T"s, it is a long list of "DO"s. When
in this situation, DO this. That is a far better strategy
for dealing with situations, than merely saying to your
child 'don't' get in that situation. They need realistic
coping strategies, not a list of "don't"s. 

I can't speak of you personally, it's possible that you 
are a brilliant parent. But have you actually spoken to
your kids in an intelligent articulate accurate way about
the things they will face in life; sex, drug, rock and 
roll. Or, are you just assuming they know about these 
things?

Too many parent are afraid to talk to their kids because
they think speaking of these things will make them a very
appealing 'forbidden fruit'. But if you don't speak of 
them, if you don't make your position crystal clear and 
do so with logic and reason, then you have no one to 
blame but yourself when you kids make the wrong decision.
If you don't make it clear where the 'lines' are in life,
then how can you expect them to know when they step over
that 'line'? Kids don't just absorb values and strategies
for coping with situation, those values, guidelines, and 
responses to situations need to be clearly and frequently
stated by the parent.

The child may or may not follow the 'strategy' when they
are confronted with the situation, but at least they have
a guideline to use in making their decision.

Sorry to be so blunt.

Steve/bboyminn