Well, don't want to upset the other list so I'll post here

[doddiemoemoe]

 Gay, straight, bi-sexual, celibate...doesn't matter...as side from 
Ron and Harry's kissing exploits..sex takes place off page...

For JKR love has always played a major role...

So, IMHO, after reading the last book, I always wondered what JKR 
would have said about DD's relationship with Grindewald..(Honestly, 
I always thought that she would just say DD loved him and his 
ideals..leading us to discuss Grindewald's ideas for the next few 
years--which we will probably do.).

DD makes mention of love many times over the entire series--we so 
often agreed with him and towards the end were confused(we should 
not have been)...

Does DD being gay make any difference on the meaning of DD's words 
to us as readers or Harry as a character?

Does DD being homosexual make any difference upon his treatment of 
Snape? Minerva? Pomona? Hagrid? Slughorn? Umbridge? Lupin? Sirius? 
or any other characters besides Grindewald in the series?

So many fans were quite content to asign sexual identies to so many 
of the characters, yet then are upset that DD is gay..*heavy sigh*

I dunno..this was no surprise to me..and secretly I'm kinda glad 
that DD is gay seeing as one of her black characters (Dean Thomas) 
had a father that ran out.(although not in the book....it also is 
part of the realm that the "DD is gay" resides in..many in the black 
community did not appreciate this aspect of one of Harry's 
contemporaries--why Dean and not Seamus?!? Why does the black kids 
father run out as opposed to the white so many proclaimed...perhaps 
this is why the Lupin incident in DH?)...

I dunno, I think JKR may have always thought DD was gay in her head 
as she was writing because how and why else would DD jump so wholy 
and completely upon Grindies band wagon...

If Ariana hadn't died, or if Aberforth hadn't been there trying to 
cram the one way ticket of the clue bus down DD's throat..who knows 
what Harry's world would have been.

DD did know the power of love when dealing with Harry...DD's power 
of love enabled Grindewald to rise to power...and DD's power of love 
also enabeld him to defeat what he had helped create...(I get the 
feeling that was how Grindie ended up in prison VS dead--hence the 
feelings weren't completely one sided--even if Grindie only 
appreciated the ego stroke)..

After hearing Trelawney's prediction, I get the feeling that DD may 
have been quite methodical, after that whole Snape/DD episode, I 
think DD panicked..hence the begining of Puppetmaster!DD. DD was 
powerful enough to subdue Lily and James and take Harry to 
safekeeping, yet he did not. Of course DD didn't take Harry by 
force...not because it was for the best, but because he knew the 
destruction that oft befell those who loved even if it was because 
of the "greater good"..

And JKR is correct(of course she is..she is the creator)....and it 
is true that she meant DD to be gay from the beginning...otherwise 
Grindewald would have been a witch, not a wizard...

Doddie,
(who truly wonders if DD may have had some sort of crush on Snape 
hence left him to the fate he received...although DD did warn 
him...and none of the trio sprang into action...I don't blame any of 
them really...perhaps this is why Harry ensured the headmaster's 
portrait of Snape finally was hung in the office..._)