Testing, 1,2,3 and Charisma - what is it?

[Tonks]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at yahoogroups.com, "Carol" <justcarol67 at ...> 
wrote:
>
> Tonks wrote:
> > 
> > It is very quiet here. I have been over at YA, arguing politics. 
> 
> Carol responds:
> What is YA? (All I can think of is "young adult.")
> 
> Tonks again:

YA=  Yahoo Answers. It is a wild and wooly place. Enter at your own 
risk and don't use your real name. I use to argue Religion in the 
Religion and Spirituality section until I started getting atacks on 
my computer, internet stalkers and a video of a woman having her 
hand cut off, sent to me by a Muslim. Screw them... now I am over 
arguing Politics instead. Much tamer group. Course it is true what 
we have always been told... never discuss either subject.. oh well, 
that is no fun, but certainly safer.

Carol said:
(snip)
remember that "charisma" comes from the same root asI
> "charity" even though the initial sound is different. 

Tonks:
oops, I snipped too much. You said part of the word means grace 
also. Put the two together, grace and charity might be part of it. 

What do other people think Charisma is? What do you see in a person 
that has it? Have you even knowm a woman who has it? What does that 
look like in a woman? I only see men who have it, so I suspect part 
of it has to do with sex appeal... that little wicked twinkle in the 
eye... but how would a woman develop it? And if part of it is 
sexual, how would a women do that without coming off like a tramp? I 
need a little help with this. I want to cultivate some charisma. I 
am sure that one can learn it to some extent, while for many it may 
come naturally. 

(I also snipped the part where Carol was saying that children were 
drawn to her. I use to have people just talk to me and tell me the 
deepest, darkest secrets of their life, even when I was a teenager. 
That was part of what caused me to become a psychotherapist later. 
People just naturally trust me. And I really don't know what I do to 
cause that reaction in people. Except once a women told me that I 
was the most "accepting of other people person" that she had ever 
met. And she had only know me for about an hour as part of a group 
of people. I still don't know how that comes across to anyone 
without my saying anything.) So what is charisma?? How can I get 
some of it? What is the mindset of a person with charisma? I 
think 'who' we project to others comes from how we think.. 

I wish folks would discuss this topic...  anyone there???  

Tonks_op