Let's be fair! (was the H/H kiss and other stuff . . .)

[Ebony]

No: HPFGUIDX 8237

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, drmm at f... wrote:
> And on to other things . . . 
> 
> <snip> I think discussing the H/H vs. H/R argument *is* 
> pointless.  No matter how many logical arguments I and other H/R 
> supporters come up with it's never going to change the opinion of 
H/H supporters like Penny.  What will happen is that both of us will 
> continue through the same cycle of arguments for or against the 
> pairings ad nauseum (is that spelled right?).  And eventually, this 
> could easily lead to misunderstandings and possibly hurt feelings.
> 
> I stated my reasons for preferring H/R (although I have no idea 
what message number that is) a few months ago and chose to leave it 
at that.  There's a point in time when people just have to stop 
> discussing something; they need to agree to disagree.  I think the 
> romance debate reached that point a long time ago.  Therefore, I 
just don't post about it.
> 
> That's why *this* Hermione/Ron fan isn't as vocal about it.  And 
> hopefully this makes sense.


It makes sense, but do you really think that it's fair to give others 
a virtual hand-slap because they enjoy this sort of discussion?

I don't think that H/Hers are "louder" than R/Hers--what a blatant 
generalization.  The list is certainly not pro-H/H.  The only H/Hers 
that have *regularly* posted on this topic are Penny and myself.  
There are at least several H/H fanfic writers here who barely ever 
say anything at all.

Also, I am more than a little tired of people complaining about the 
admittedly tedious romance debate, yet not saying a single word about 
the constantly rehashed Wand Order and Number of Students 
discussions.  I've never participated in the Wand Order debate... the 
way the scene was written in the 1st ed. of GoF never bothered me.

I always skip the number of students posts, because the debate never 
interested me--I formed my opinion long ago, and don't care to 
discuss it.  Yet I don't question the right of other members to 
discuss issues of interest to *them*.  That's what the "next" 
and "delete" keys on my browser are for.

Ship preferences aside, Penny is one of the listmoms and has 
dedicated a lot of her time to make this forum an interesting and 
safe place for all points of view.

Let's be fair, please.

--Ebony