Abuse, Hermione and the triad, triumvirate.

[Susan McGee]

No: HPFGUIDX 2601

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, Amanda Lewanski <editor at t...> wrote:
> I am not a pro in the field, but I believe it's a common 
misconception that
> abuse must be physical. The constant belittling, if taken to enough 
of an
> extreme, would qualify. However, I also believe that part of being 
abused is
> accepting it, and in my opinion Harry is not abused because within 
himself he
> has not "bought" any of the brainwashing the Dursleys are 
attempting.
> 
> --Amanda, hope I made sense, it's very late and today was my son's 
4th
> birthday...

Amanda, sorry but you are dead wrong. You have played into the
misconceived notion of "blaming the victim". In other words, if
the abused child or adult "doesn't accept it" then they are not 
abused, unlike those who do "accept it". 

People have different methods of coping with abuse. 

Harry is unusual and not really true to life in one sense. Abused 
kids who make it usually have strong adult role models elsewhere,
detailed fantasy worlds they escape into, or SOMEplace they go to 
survive.

Also, many children who are abused get help as adults and resolve the 
issues that are causing them trouble.

Some abused children are damaged, and don't get the help they need.
They become serial killers, batterers, and child abusers themselves.

Susan