SHIP: H/H & other thoughts

[Penny & Bryce Linsenmayer]

No: HPFGUIDX 11613

Hi --

Kelley wrote:

> I do believe R/H will be a more entertaining pairing in canon.  I love
> Harry, but he really does seem a bit uninteresting to me.  Ron and
> Herm have far more vivid personalities.  Does it seem to you (and any
> other H/H-ers) that R & He have no interaction beyond bickering?  I
> mean that in an absolutely non-inflammatory way, this is genuine
> curiosity.
>
>> Can you give some idea of what spark there might be in an H/H pairing?  All I
>> can picture is Herm helping Harry fight against Vold, just as it's
>> been going.  I just can't see any romantic chemistry, so far in
>> canon, and even when trying to imagine it in a future sense.  Just
>> doesn't seem very conducive for any real passion.
>>
> Okay, but we're already getting this from Harry and Hermione.  He's
> already saving the world with help from Herm (and others as well, of
> course).  If you take away this plotline, what is there for them?  If
> they weren't fighting Vold, what would be happening with them?
>
I think other people have asked the same basic question: what "spark" is
there between H & H in the canon that would support a future pairing?
The intimation seems to be that they are "boring" together & not very
entertaining.

I think again, it really boils down to how one views relationships in
"real life."  I'm not sure anyone who knows us would look at my husband
and me and say, "Wow!  They've really got a *spark* in their
relationship."  I do think, though, that people who know us would look
at us and say, "They are so happy.  They've got a good solid
relationship and are obviously meant to be."

Point being: I'm not convinced that the only road to romantic happiness
& compatibility (and yes, passion) requires fireworks and sparks.  In
fact, the fireworks and sparks thing just wouldn't have suited *my*
personality at all.  <g>  My husband and I were good friends for quite
awhile before our relationship turned to romance.  It just evolved into
the romantic aspect.  It was probably always there under the surface,
but we just didn't act on it for awhile.  That's how I can see H/H.
They have a solid friendship, common interests and lots of other great
things, even if there's no classic "spark" in the tradition of romantic
comedies.  I guess my perception is that some of you believe that
sparks/bickering/tension = passion.  My take on it is that you can have
*lots* of passion, even without the sparks & fireworks.  <vbg>

I don't imagine R/H *always* bickering.  But, they bicker & spat back &
forth more than I would care to.  It is admittedly the "defining"
characteristic of their relationship in my mind.  I don't necessarily
see them having loads of "fun," like some of the R/H types see.  They
seem to me to disagree fairly often.  For example -- the giants and the
house elves.  Ron has a typical "grew up in the wizarding world" view of
house elves & the giants.  Hermione has a totally different
perspective.  It just seems like there are so many issues of this nature
that would make their pairing hard to sustain over the long haul.

I like romantic comedies, but I don't see them as particularly
realistic.  I just don't honestly know that many people who fall into
that category.  They are funny and entertaining .... but in my mind,
they are barely distinguishable from fantasy.

Anyway .... that's just my take on it.  I really do think it's just a
matter of how each individual approaches romantic relationships in their
own life -- it colors your perception of what would make the characters
most happy.  So many of us on both sides of the fence identify with
Hermione, but we just disagree about what the right "type" of romantic
relationship is best for her.

As for imagining how they might be in a future pairing, I don't know if
you're one of those who avoids fanfic at all costs, but give PoU a try.
I know several people have said that they liked PoU but still didn't
"believe" in the H/H pairing.  That's fair -- but personally, PoU is
exactly what I imagine a future H/H pairing could be like.  But, to each
his own.  <g>  If you *haven't* read it and are interested in seeing
what a future H/H pairing might look like, I recommend it.

Penny



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