The Kiss, Party Boats and the like

[Kimberly]

No: HPFGUIDX 10584

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, Penny & Bryce Linsenmayer 
> 
> Since Kathy posed a question about our side, can I likewise ask a 
question about
> the R/H philosophy?  My perception (could be wrong admittedly) is 
that the R/H
> types seem to be defensive.  I always get the impression that it's 
shocking &
> bordering on sacrilege to even "suggest" that there might be the 
slightest
> possibility that Hermione doesn't like Ron back (or that they might 
not last if
> they do get together).  Is this just a misimpression on my part?  
(honestly
> curious ...)
> 

Penny,

I know as a newbie no-shipper I'm not the best person to respond to 
this, but as I came from and still have a certain affinity for the 
R/H ship's general philosophy, I thought I'd try.

There might be something to what you're saying.  Kathy mentioned that 
some R/Hers tell her they're uncomfortable posting here because the 
atmosphere seems against it.  I have heard the same.  Maybe they 
perceive that they have something to defend themselves against if 
they post about it?  I'm not saying that anyone has gone out of their 
way to make them feel that way, or even realized it was happening, 
and I may well have misinterpreted it completely and nobody feels 
that way.  I'm just trying to give my honest view of what I think I'm 
observing.  Please, by all means R/Hers - correct me if I'm wrong!

But as for defensiveness in general, I perceive it on both sides.  
But I think it's just the nature of being on two opposing sides of a 
debate.  Your lawyer explanation speaks to this.  You appear 
defensive when you make the repeated comeback arguments you 
mentioned.  R/Hers probably seem defensive for the same reason - but 
it's part of debate - that's all!  

Maybe it's just that, being a lawyer, you're better at it that makes 
the R/Hers feel that way, or maybe it's the terminology that has been 
tossed around (disorders, destroyers, etc.).  I'm quite happy myself 
that you've been steering away from them, because down here floating 
without a ship in the waters of ambiguous anticipation it's kinda 
scary to see two big ships face of in battle terms.

I hope I'm not stepping on any toes - I don't mean to speak for one 
side or offend the other side, I just wanted to bring some things out 
in the open.

Peace,
kimberly