SHIPPING of Love and War

[Emma Moniz]

No: HPFGUIDX 20973

> Ebony/AngieJ said: 
> > You see, after nearly a year of contemplation of the matter, I do 
think that it's not the bickering that bothers me most about R/H.  
It's their personalities.  Ron at this point in canon has many merits 
as a character, but you must admit that he is needy.  Perhaps he'll 
grow out of this.  My RL experiences with this personality type 
indicate to me otherwise... we all carry ghosts of childhood along 
with us, however deep they're buried.

And Allison replied:
> True, Ron can be a bit needy.  But Ron is a teenage boy.  As a  
teenage girl, I'm going to offer my expert opinion that ALL teenage  
boys are needy.  He may not grow out of it completely, but it should 
lessen with time.  All teenagers are somewhat insecure, and this 
tends to lead to neediness.  I think Ron will get better as he gets  
older.

Now, my two bits:

I have issues with Ron.  When we were reading Harry Potter together, 
my psycho ex always identified with Ron, the needy personality type.  
He never understood why Hermione wasn't more into him, why she wasn't 
more attentive to him.  And now, in retrospect, I see a lot of my 
ex's neediness in Ron.  He has some bluster, but really no deeply-
ingrained self-confidence to carry him through the rough spots.  He's 
defined by his family more than by his own actions.  And he can't 
quite seem to go it alone, at least not to me.  This is what makes me 
really dread to see Hermione and Ron end up together.  Ron is clingy, 
yet oblivious.  I think he would wear down Hermione, much like my ex 
wore me down over the years.  And I want to see our fiesty Hermione 
do better for herself than get involved in a relationship with an 
emotionally needy individual.  

Now I shall patiently wait for all the Ron fans and the sailors on 
the Good Ship Hr/R to come out of the woodwork and eat me alive...I 
taste better with honey mustard, mind...

~Emma