Use of names

[Amy Z]

No: HPFGUIDX 18727

Milz wrote:

>Going by really strict (Emily 
> Post, Letitia Baldridge, Amy Vanderbuilt type) etiquette, an adult 
> can address another adult by his given name if they are close 
> acquaintances. Children must address adults as Mr, Miss, etc.

I hope they've updated this to Ms.  Making assumptions about someone's 
marital status is rude in a whole other way . . . and I for one don't 
like my marital status to be a part of my name even when the speaker 
does know it.  This blew my students' minds, who could not absorb the 
idea that I was married but still expected to be called Ms.  Somewhere 
along the line, Ms. came to mean "Miss," i.e. "Unmarried Woman," which 
rather defeats its purpose.

Rosmerta wrote:

>And finally, re: Snape calling Dumbledore "headmaster," Lupin *does* 
>do it, once. Dumbledore tells him his carriage is waiting and he 
>says, "Thank you, headmaster." IIRC, those're the last words Lupin 
>speaks to Dumbledore. They have their awkward 
shake-over-the-grindlow-
>tank and he's gone. Very moving.

Yes, others besides Snape call Dumbledore that now and then.  Snape is 
just unusual in that he calls him Headmaster more often than he calls 
him anything else.

I'm very moved by that scene too.

Amy Z