Use of names

[koinonia02 at yahoo.com]

No: HPFGUIDX 18770

--- In HPforGrownups at y..., "Amy Z" <aiz24 at h...> wrote:
> Milz wrote:
> 
> >Going by really strict (Emily 
> > Post, Letitia Baldridge, Amy Vanderbuilt type) etiquette, an 
adult 
> > can address another adult by his given name if they are close 
> > acquaintances. Children must address adults as Mr, Miss, etc.
 

Amy Z wrote: 
> I hope they've updated this to Ms.  Making assumptions about 
someone's 
> marital status is rude in a whole other way . . . and I for one 
don't 
> like my marital status to be a part of my name even when the 
speaker 
> does know it.  This blew my students' minds, who could not absorb 
the 
> idea that I was married but still expected to be called Ms.


I am married and expect to be called Mrs. Paul, not Ms.  I would also 
prefer to be called Miss Paul if someone is in doubt.  Then I will 
inform them that I am married and they may call me by my first name 
or *Mrs*.  Just my personal preferance. I never call teachers or 
doctors by their first name unless requested to do so.  I believe in 
courtesy and respect when addressing people.  I don't allow kids to 
call me by my first name nor do I let my kids call any other adult by 
their first name. I still say 'yes ma'am' and 'yes sir'.  Common 
courtesy.    

Dumbledore seems to call most of the adults by their first name, 
including Karkaroff and Fudge.  Snape on the other hand, shows 
respect to Dumbledore and to McGonagall when addressing them. Now, 
what Snape is really saying under his breath I have no idea ;)

Koinonia