Lupin's relationship with Harry

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No: HPFGUIDX 32515

--- In HPforGrownups at y..., "grandisiowa" <cstump at k...> wrote:
> Does Lupin care as much as Sirius? Absolutely. It might be a 
> difference 
> in the characters' personalities.
> 

I would agree with that. Lupin does seem reserved, but the 
relationship always bothered me because I've always wanted to feel 
that Lupin did care as much, considering he seems like such a great 
guy. 

grandisiowa wrote:

> Another factor involved is the teacher element. I know that there 
> are 
> extenuating circumstances in this teacher student relationship, 
but 
> there are certain obligations about being a teacher, and how you 
> should 
> behave. 
> 

I did think of that after posting. It makes sense that his teacher 
relationship with Harry would make him even more reserved. It seems 
like Harry understands this too, because he has no qualms about 
calling Sirius by his first name, but still adresses Lupin 
as "Professor".

grandisiowa continued:

> Sirius sends 
> Harry birthday presents and invites Harry to live with him, so 
> why 
> doesn't Lupin? I understand that the latter would probably be 
> impossible considering the werewolf problem, but would it be so 
> hard 
> to send Harry a present? 
> 
> Money. Lupin hasn't had any money. 
>

Hadn't thought of that at all, but it does make sense.

grandisiowa again:

> From a pragmatic viewpoint, there's that werewolf thing again. I 
> can 
> imagine that James and Lily would like Remus to be involved in 
> Harry's 
> life, but to have Remus take care of Harry should something 
happen 
> to 
> them might not be wisest for both Harry and Remus.
> 
 
I guess I hadn't really realized all the responsibilities that the 
Godfather would take. And it seems pretty obvious that Remus isn't 
the best choice for someone to take care of baby Harry, so it would 
seem right for it to be Sirius instead. But as far as the best man 
thing.. is it possible for James to have had more than just one? I 
know that's not typical but I'd still like to believe that Lupin 
wasn't completely ignored. :)

grandisiowa again:

> Thank you for such a thought provoking message.
> 

No problem. :)

Tracy