[HPforGrownups] Some more thoughts about Lily and the Marauders

[Alexander]

No: HPFGUIDX 33823

  Greetings!

> Susanna wrote to us:

p> Hi all,

p> first of all, my apologies to Lily- fans, but I have to
p> get this off my mind.

p> (... a lot of introductory text skipped ...)

p> OK, so according to these assumptions, we have four young
p> men none of whom is in a stable realationship, there
p> might be the occasional flirt but nothing serious, and
p> then there comes LILY. Lily who takes up a lot of James's
p> time, who wants to see him without his friends being
p> around, making smooching noises and comments like "Get a
p> room" when they kiss, Lily who doesn't appreciate their
p> "boys' talk"...

  IMHO it's strange that you demonstrate such prejudice to
Lily. There could easily be nothing of that. The scenario
you paint is only possible if it's more important for Lily
to "own" James than anything else.
  But are your assumptions based on *anything*? Lily in your
description looks like a woman who doesn't know what a
friendship is. But even more, James looks like he doesn't
understand what is happening and is simply led away from his
friends by "that woman".
  Unlikely scenario. Unless there was indeed a romantic
interest involved from other members of their gang, I would
say that it's more likely for Lily to be accepted within
their gang as fifth member.

p> Interesting to think of the reactions of the other 3,
p> isn't it? At first, maybe they dismiss her as a mere
p> flirt among many others. Then things become obviously
p> more serious and Sirius, Peter and Remus start getting
p> worried. Perhaps there's some teasing ("Hey, prongs,
p> we'll call you Bambi from now on, you've gone all
p> soft!"), and when teasing doesn't have any effect,
p> there's some talking reason into James ("James, for God's
p> sake, we're only 16 years old, this is not the time to
p> form a lasting relationship, it's the time for having
p> fun! Give it a try and get out of Lily's clutches!").

  Or they just understand their friend feelings. Personally
I would expect _this_ from Sirius and Remus at least.

p> (... a lot of text skipped ...)

p> Susanna/pigwidgeon37  

  My question is: why to suggest the worse? Lily proved to
be a woman capable to sacrifice her life out of love. I
simply cannot imagine her to act the way you have described.
And anyway we simply lack the facts to make such quick
assumptions. I have always preferred the "presumed innocent"
approach...

Sincerely yours,
Alexander Lomski,
(Gryffindor/Slytherin crossbreed),
always happy to throw weird ideas into the community.