emotional rescue

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No: HPFGUIDX 75108


> >Allyson wrote: 
> >It would just seem weird to me. I don't know, maybe Lupin could be 
> >someone like that. I suspect he will take over Sirius' god-parenting 
> >duties to some extent. I still couldn't picture Harry crying on his 
> >shoulder though.

> 
> Erin wrote:
> Hmmm. Maybe Lupin will cry on Harry's. I would think that might be 
> a scenario that helps both of them. Might even liberate Harry 
emotionally. He 
> wouldn't feel so alone and isolated. Just a thought, but it seems 
possible.
> 


I don't think that it would be healthy for Harry (or any 15 year old) 
to take on the burden of providing emotional support to an adult, 
especially one who is in a quasi-parental relationship with him.  
Certainly he needs someone to be close to him, provide regular, 
*honest* communication with him and give him the occasional hug.  
Remus is the ideal candidate-he seems to have great compassion and 
understanding.  And because of that, I doubt that Remus would inflict 
his own sorrows on Harry.  But for sure, Remus needs someone in his 
life too-and he deserves someone.  It should be another adult, 
though.  Moving into the position of Harry's adult confidante and 
mentor would no doubt be tremendously theraputic to Remus, and 
healthy for both of them.  But Harry is not ready to carry the weight 
of Remus's problems, and he couldn't really understand them anyhow.  
He is, after all, still a child, even if Dumbledore seems to forget 
that sometimes.  

Laura