[HPforGrownups] Re: emotional rescue

[Erin Hamilton]

No: HPFGUIDX 75112


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>Laura wrote:
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>I don't think that it would be healthy for Harry (or any 15 year old)
>to take on the burden of providing emotional support to an adult,
>especially one who is in a quasi-parental relationship with him.
>Certainly he needs someone to be close to him, provide regular,
>*honest* communication with him and give him the occasional hug.
>Remus is the ideal candidate-he seems to have great compassion and
>understanding.  And because of that, I doubt that Remus would inflict
>his own sorrows on Harry.  But for sure, Remus needs someone in his
>life too-and he deserves someone.  It should be another adult,
>though.  Moving into the position of Harry's adult confidante and
>mentor would no doubt be tremendously theraputic to Remus, and
>healthy for both of them.  But Harry is not ready to carry the weight
>of Remus's problems, and he couldn't really understand them anyhow.
>He is, after all, still a child, even if Dumbledore seems to forget
>that sometimes.
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>Laura

Erin again, with clarification:

Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that. I think I simply meant that it would 
help to be able to share grief. To have an outlet. He keeps a lot inside. 
That's the burden he doesn't need. If someone else opens up first, like a 
good friend, maybe that can help him open up as well. It's quite healthy 
and natural, and can certainly happen without Harry taking on the burden of 
someone else's grief. Rather, it would dispel the burden for both. Helps in 
real life, anyway. Thanks for letting me clarify.
Erin