emotional rescue

[susanbones2003]

No: HPFGUIDX 75114

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, Erin Hamilton 
<music4masses at e...> wrote:
> 
> >
> > >
> >Laura wrote:
> >
> >I don't think that it would be healthy for Harry (or any 15 year 
old)
> >to take on the burden of providing emotional support to an adult,
> >especially one who is in a quasi-parental relationship with him.
> >Certainly he needs someone to be close to him, provide regular,
> >*honest* communication with him and give him the occasional hug.
> >Remus is the ideal candidate-he seems to have great compassion and
> >understanding.  And because of that, I doubt that Remus would 
inflict
> >his own sorrows on Harry.  But for sure, Remus needs someone in his
> >life too-and he deserves someone.  It should be another adult,
> >though.  Moving into the position of Harry's adult confidante and
> >mentor would no doubt be tremendously theraputic to Remus, and
> >healthy for both of them.  But Harry is not ready to carry the 
weight
> >of Remus's problems, and he couldn't really understand them anyhow.
> >He is, after all, still a child, even if Dumbledore seems to forget
> >that sometimes.
> >
> >Laura
> 
> Erin again, with clarification:
> 
> Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that. I think I simply meant that it 
would 
> help to be able to share grief. To have an outlet. He keeps a lot 
inside. 
> That's the burden he doesn't need. If someone else opens up first, 
like a 
> good friend, maybe that can help him open up as well. It's quite 
healthy 
> and natural, and can certainly happen without Harry taking on the 
burden of 
> someone else's grief. Rather, it would dispel the burden for both. 
Helps in 
> real life, anyway. Thanks for letting me clarify.
> Erin
 My two bits:
As much as all this sharing and opening up would be emotionally 
gratifying, I can't see a bunch of it happening. In JKR's world, a 
little emotion goes a long, long way. See how much better Harry felt 
after Luna talked to him about the veil? That's all we got and 
perhaps all we are likely to get. Same with the brief embrace of 
Harry and Mrs. Weasley, which was interupted by Hermione capturing 
Rita!Beetle. Those moments are few and far between. I do hope for a 
good talk with Lupin at some point but I forsee few tears being shed 
amongst grieving parties. It's just too messy.
Jennifer