JKR's marriage

[blauemeanies <cmsore@wm.edu>]

No: HPFGUIDX 50331

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "Jim Ferer <jferer at y...>" 
<jferer at y...> wrote:

> 
> The point, course, is that JKR is not likely to be viewing these 
> tempestuous relationships in a favorable light, given that her own 
> experience with them was bad.  To bring it down to canon, JKR has 
her 
> alter ego on the edge of the same kind of relationship that JKR had 
> to get out of.
> 


However, we don't have strong evidence of what JKR sees this 
relationship dynamic as truly having been and why it was such a bad 
one.  She could see it as a result of repressed feelings of annoyance 
or dislike that would explode into conflict at times and linger from 
what would be at times a deceptively harmonius relationship to the 
participant, which would make her memories of the event similar to 
the worst case Harry/Hermione scenario.  

You could be right, a relationship that often has light and playful bickering would degenerate into nasty angry unreconcilable fights at times. which 
would make her memories of the events similar to the worst case 
Ron/Hermione scenario.  Or it could have been the result of very 
disparate world views and his being a really nasty, rude person that 
would create a highly charged atmosphere where there was a vain hope 
that love could conquer all but it failed miserably degenerating into 
fighting of this sort, which would make it very like the best case 
Draco/Hermione relationship in her memory (ok, I'm very, very hard on 
Draco/Hermione, shoot me).  Or there could be no relationship dynamic 
that even vaguely resembles what she saw going wrong in the 
marriage.  

I find it unlikely that JKR would write a sympathetic view 
of a character that is supposed to be like her ex-husband, and I 
think she is writing Ron as a sympathetic even positive character. I 
guess I can see any relationship degenerating into a screaming and 
negative relationship like the one Penny says was documented by third 
party observers in the biography.  

What matters is what JKR felt went wrong, and that doesn't necessarily mean she has the negative image that you believe she does towards a relationship like R/Hr because of it.  I haven't read the biography, so I am at a disadvantage.  R/Hr 
could even be the image of what a successful relationship should be 
like after experiencing a different type of bad romantic 
relationship.  It does, in the eyes of supporters, have similarities 
to a positive relationship in the books (Molly/Arthur) and they do 
show leanings toward being able to work out problems, they frequently 
forgive quickly and other signs that this might just grow into a 
healthy relationship.  I don't know what we really know about her 
views on romance from having such a negative romance.

"cmsore"