[HPforGrownups] Re: OoP: Abused!Draco, Hermione, Snape

[MadameSSnape at aol.com]

No: HPFGUIDX 67583

In a message dated 7/4/2003 4:23:14 PM Eastern Daylight Time, 
meboriqua at aol.com writes:

> I'm amazed that you think a father who cares about his son's grades is 
> cruel and belittling.  Would he be a better father if he accepted any 
> grades his son brought home, even if he knew his son could do better?  
> Isn't a good thing for parents to have expectations?  It's not like 
> Lucius said "Draco, you are a loser.  I can't believe you are my son, 
> you moron, you idiot, you dunce

Actually, yes, Lucius' comments WERE "cruel & belittling".  If this is a 
pattern - & I see no reason to believe that it isn't - he's completely undermining 
Draco's self-confidence.  Speaking as one who grew up as the daughter of 
"Mother Lucius", after a couple of years of "Why wasn't that 98 a 100?", "Where's 
the plus on that A?", & "You let So-&-So beat you on that test?", with very 
little in the way of positive feedback, you give up trying.  ("Can't please her 
anyway, so...")  (In all fairness - she'd had the same done to her by her 
father.)  Took me a long time to get past that - & Draco may not HAVE the luxury 
of that sort of time.

Sherrie


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