OOP: Boys & Girls in the Potter World

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Re: OOP: Boys & Girls in the Potter World

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, Carolina <silmariel at t...> 
wrote:
> That is part of the problem. She "leads him", for months, and she 
>is the one who seeks the kiss. Given the usual boy leads 
>relationship pattern, and that Harry is nearly as communicative as 
>a wall, by Feb 14th she is insecure. No wonder the 'fiasco'.
> silmariel

>From Bookworm:
As the mother of a teenage boy, I can tell you that it often *isn't* 
the boys who start the relationship.  The number of calls to our 
house from girls is incredible – including the ones who are hoping 
to be first in line when he breaks up with the current girlfriend.

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "crisagi1" <cristina at p...> 
wrote:
> Scott Santangelo <owlery2003 at y...> wrote:
> > I think Harry's getting over Cho, but there's still something 
>there. Unfortunately, it may be Cedric's memory.
> The pure psychology of it all is enough to give me a splitting 
>headache.  Just remember a few things... 1.) Cho told Harry in GoF, 
>if you had asked me earlier, but I'm going with Cedric... Who was 
>actually 2nd choice then?  It seems that Cedric was.  2.) 
>Unfortunately when you are seeing someone and something happens to 
>them, all of a sudden they become this unsung hero.  <snip>  My 
>point is that Cho and Cedric supposedly started dating at the Yule 
>ball, they were classmates and for as much as we know occasionally 
>saw each other for six months.  People would still expect her to 
>pine away for him and mourn him for an "appropriate" amount of 
>time.  Who's to say what that amount of time should be?  She could 
>be dating anyone right now and people would talk.  We're not really 
>interested in Cho's life really, only in how Cho is actually 
>affecting Harry's life.  3.)Cho is obviously very confused right 
>now... she wants to talk about Cedric with someone she thinks would 
>like to share in his memory.  People have a way of either avoiding 
>you or talk down to you when you loose someone.  I think she wants 
>to spend time with someone who can commiserate with what she is 
>going through, or so she thinks.  I don't know the character is 
>very complex, and again we aren't dealing with an adult character, 
>but an adolecent one that might not have the maturity to deal with 
>emotions on this level.
> Crissy

>From Bookworm:
Thank you, Crissy.  I was trying to compose a response to the anti-
Cho comments, but you put it better than I could have.  And Scott's 
comment is also appropriate, IMHO.  Also, IMHO, I think anyone Harry 
becomes involved with will be someone who can understand how Harry 
has been affected by LV. So far, the 2 girls who have also been 
affected by LV are Ginny (directly) and Cho (indirectly through 
Cedric's death).  Whether memory of Cedric is a barrier to a 
Harry/Cho SHIP or the link to connect them, remains to be seen.  
Ginny keeps her thoughts to herself, so she may or may not be 
interested in Harry; Harry is so wrapped up in what has just 
happened to him, girls don't seem a priority right now.

Ravenclaw Bookworm