OOP: Boys & Girls in the Potter World

[rowena_grunnionffitch]

No: HPFGUIDX 67503

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "crisagi1" <cristina at p...> 
wrote:
 - and again we aren't dealing 
> with an adult character, but an adolecent one that might not have 
the maturity to deal with emotions on this level.

   Of course she doesn't, poor child! How can you expect a sixteen 
year old girl to cope effectively with such a sudden and violent loss 
when most grown women would have trouble doing so?

   Cedric may very well have been Cho's first love, at the very least 
he was a very nice boy that she liked a lot - maybe even fantasized 
about marrying as girls do. And then he's dead, killed in who knows 
what horrible way by the Wizarding World's greatest terror. She has 
every right to be a wet mess six months later, that is not the sort 
of thing one just throws off! 

   Cho clearly thinks talking about Cedric to somebody who shares her 
feelings of shock and grief will help her, she's probably right. 
Unfortunately 'talking it out' is not Harry's coping method of 
choice. The last thing he wants to do is relive it all. 

   Reading the interview in the Quibbler obviously does Cho a lot of 
good. Now she knows exactly what happened to Cedric and that he died 
quickly and without pain, undoubtedly this is very comforting to her. 
When she tells Harry she cried, she's talking about 'good tears' the 
kind you feel better after. He of course doesn't understand, which 
basically is their whole relationship in a nutshell. They just don't 
understand each other and so keep making hurtful mistakes. Better 
they give it up.