OOP: Neville, Cho (was OOP: Opinions?)

[Julia]

No: HPFGUIDX 62031

Jenny wrote:
> Really, though, I am wondering if Cho is characterized as the 
> kind 
> of 
> girl who only dates the popular/strong/best athlete/most handsome 
> boys.  Cho seemed to be looking for validation from Harry - if he 
> found her attractive, she found value in herself.  I didn't like 
> JKR's 
> characterization of Cho, but perhaps she went out of her way to 
> create 
> a Cho we didn't like to drive home the fact that she and Harry as 
> a 
> couple could never work.


watcher wrote:
> I think she is just a girl trying to get through the this thing 
> called Grief.  Like, in the real world, people greive differently.
> 
> and like in the real world people are not given the chance to 
greive.
> 
> You have to remember that like every one else they saw a body, 
dead, 
> with out much other information, like people in the real world, 
she 
> only wanted to know what had happened, to her special friend.
> 
> remember these are 15 year old children, starting the long road of 
> feelings...
> 
> I think in the next book, they might even get togeather



Ok, before I start, I admit that I've never particularly liked Cho.  
At least, not in relation to Harry.  But she is an incredibly 
believable and real character,  who is grieving, and that's why I 
just wish she would have stayed away from Harry, rather than 
persuing him to gain some kind of understanding about Cedric.  I'm 
with Jenny, a relationship between them just wouldn't work, which is 
driven home at the end of the book.  They don't understand each 
other, they don't even know each other, in all frankness.  Harry 
worries about the Order, his friends dying, and constantly being in 
Voldemort's head.  Cho is grieving over Cedric, and is worried about 
making Harry feel jealous?  If she knew him at all, she'd know the 
relationship with Hermione is utterly platonic, and that he'd never 
understand her telling him that sort of thing about Davies or 
Cedric.  And Harry's grieving, too.  He went through hell and back 
again that night, and she just wants him to spill his guts.  Harry's 
a pretty private person, it's not gonna happen.  They're is just way 
too much extra baggage there, Harry has enough to be getting on 
with.  And then the arguement about Marietta.  Harry has always 
given and been returned extreme loyalty to and from his friends, and 
anyone who knows him would understand this.  You just don't insult 
Hagrid, Ron, or Hermione in from of him.  BAD idea.  

Anyway, with the end of the book, Harry now has to worry about being 
the only person able to defeat Voldemort.  Like Dumbledore said, 
millions of lives, and not just human ones, rest on his shoulders 
(no pressure, Harry).  He couldn't talk about this with Cho.  He 
needs someone he will be able to talk to, at least one day.  
Hermione, in my opinion would be a better choice than Cho, and that 
would just be awful.  Maybe Ginny, since they can actually have a 
conversation now.  I don't know, and I don't really care, to be 
honest.  I don't think Harry would jump into that kind of 
relationship easily now, considering he might very well be murdered 
just as easily as he might very well defeat Voldemort.  Like I said, 
he's got enough to be getting on with.  Cho was hurting him, 
indirectly yes, but still hurting him.  Harry deserves better than 
that.

Julia