Wand and Death Order Controversy

[karenkyla3 <karenkyla3@aol.com>]

No: HPFGUIDX 53147

Okay, I need you all to explain something to me like I"m really dumb 
because I've been reading post upon post and faq after faq about this 
whole 'wand order controversy' regarding the night that Harry's 
parents were killed.  From what I gather, there is some question as 
to the order that they all died and who he was after and who offered 
the protection.  Okay, we know that Harry 'broke' Voldemort's power 
because his mother sacrificed her life for his and thus Voldemort's 
spell ricocheted back to himself. So, here's what I don't 
understand:  If Voldemort's power was definitely broken when he 
attacked harry, then Harry was the last person he could have 
attacked.  Working backwards, if his mom stood in the way thus 
creating this protection, she would necessarily be second to last.  
And James must have been sometime before Harry and Lily as they were 
the last two people struck.  So, while I understand that at the end 
of GoF, when Voldemort's wand and Harry's wand lock and we see the 
spells come out of Voldemort's wand in the incorrect order, I don't 
understand why this is not just a flint.  I guess I don't understand 
logically how if Harry broke Voldemort's power and Lily immediately 
came before him, how it could be any other order.  I think there's 
just something I'm not getting.  help!  =)

Stacey