Crushes on female characters (Was: Hurt-Comfort and Comfort-Hurt)

[abigailnus]

No: HPFGUIDX 57115

Errol wrote:
> > Pomfry, Sprout, and (gasp) Trelawney – you got to be kidding!
> >In order. Too grandmother. Too aunt. Too crazy aunt locked up in the 
> >attic. 
> > Molly? That would be practically incestuous. 
> > True, but I bet she was a hottie, back in the day.
> 
> Which has me wondering. If the "Aunt", the "mother", 
> the "grandmother" etc are negative stereotypes while
> evaluating potential crushes ... how come the ladies don't feel
> Lupin is too fatherly, or Harry too brotherly, or Moody too
> "eccentric uncle in the attic"? ladies? 

Oh, Errol.  You don't really need an answer to that question, do you?  It's=
 not women who 
crush on older men who have a problem, it's the men who don't crush on olde=
r women.  
Women get old, men get distinguished.  Older men are sexy, older women are =
not.  It 
shouldn't be that way, but it is. 

Also, as was frequently pointed out during the "Snape is/is not sexy" debat=
e, being sexy 
is a function of how powerful you are.  Almost all of the older men in the =
Potterverse are 
powerful, and relatively few of the older women are.  Which is why Mrs. Les=
trange, for 
example, whose age is never given, but who is certainly within Snape's age =
group and 
therefore not in the first bloom of youth, is still sexy - she has power.

Abigail