Am I the only one

[kneazelkid]

No: HPFGUIDX 95947

Neil wrote:
"Has anyone else's opinion of Molly Weasley changed?  <snip> My
opinion started to change in GoF and by the end of OotP, I no longer
liked the woman.  <snip> Does anyone else feel like telling her to
shut her mouth or is it just me?

 Kneazelkid replied:
OK, it's not just you. Molly is probably a great mother to small
children who need everything done for them. She is terrible once
those children start to be able to think on their own.
<snip>Her nasty snaps at Sirius only cemented my opinion that she
has selfish motivations (needing to feel important and in charge)
which is why she belittles her children and other adults that she
sees as a threat to her power. Gee, I wonder where Percy gets it?
No, I don't have any children, but when I do I will make sure I pay
individual attention to them and help them, not smother them and
force them to stay attached to my apron strings so I feel important.

Cindy Jenkins wrote:
I don't see it that way at all, and honestly, I'd be surprised if 
any mother does.  Her kids are growing up.  Any idea how hard that 
is?  My son is 10--10!!!--but he'll always be a little kid to me.  
When he gets hurt at soccer, I panic, even if it's only a scraped 
knee.  And when he strikes out at baseball, I'm crushed for him.
It isn't because I see him as a "threat" to my power, it's because 
he's growing up quicker than I can keep up.  <snip> I want to remind 
myself that they still need me.  Is that wanting to feel important? 
Maybe...  But maybe it's just me wanting to be their mom.

LOL--I always chuckle when people without kids presume to know what 
they'll do with them.  Mark my words--when your baby goes off to 
school for the first time, you'll cry just like the rest of us did.  
Letting go is hard to do...;)

Kneazelkid: 
I'm pretty sure you didn't mean for the last part to be 
condesending, but I want to address it. Just becuase I don't have 
children doesn't mean that my points aren't valid. I have plenty of 
experience raising other people's children. Let's not have any sort 
of insults on this board and stick to canon to make our points. :)

Molly has a track record of favoratism (Percy)and using humeliation 
to control her children (howler sent into the Great Hall) and others 
(snap at Sirius about being in Azkaban which was both uncalled for 
and creul, considering he was serving time for a crime she knows he 
didn't commit).

I'm not saying she doesn't love her children, nor am I insulting 
mothers in general. I'm saying that Molly is ever more increasingly 
reacting on her need to control, rather than considering what is 
actually best for her children and Harry. What is best for him is to 
have the attention of the man that his parents chose to be his legal 
guardian -- a person who also seems to not a have much of a family 
and who could have given Harry all the attention he needs as well as 
treating him like the adult he's going to need to be to lead a war.
But what Molly wants in to be in charge and to have Harry as her's --
 which is sweet on the surface until you realize that one of her 
children isn't speaking to her; the others who are old enough have 
moved far, far away; her youngest son has major issues with being 
ignored and doesn't ever have the basic items he needs to get a 
decent education(using someone else's old wand is unacceptable). 
Kneazelkid