Am I the only one

[lunamk03]

No: HPFGUIDX 95996

Cindy Jenkins wrote:
> I don't see it that way at all, and honestly, I'd be surprised if 
> any mother does.  Her kids are growing up.  Any idea how hard that 
> is?  My son is 10--10!!!--but he'll always be a little kid to me.  
> When he gets hurt at soccer, I panic, even if it's only a scraped 
> knee.  And when he strikes out at baseball, I'm crushed for him.
> It isn't because I see him as a "threat" to my power, it's because 
> he's growing up quicker than I can keep up.  <snip> I want to 
remind 
> myself that they still need me.  Is that wanting to feel important? 
> Maybe...  But maybe it's just me wanting to be their mom.
> 
> LOL--I always chuckle when people without kids presume to know what 
> they'll do with them.  Mark my words--when your baby goes off to 
> school for the first time, you'll cry just like the rest of us 
did.  
> Letting go is hard to do...;)

Lunamk03:
I am not (yet;-) a mother, but I 100% agree with you here. We have a 
little beegle and every time we have to travel and leave her with 
someone to take care of her, I feel my heart shrink. I just wonder 
how powerful must be this feeling with your own kids!


> Kneazelkid: 
> I'm pretty sure you didn't mean for the last part to be 
> condesending, but I want to address it. Just becuase I don't have 
> children doesn't mean that my points aren't valid. I have plenty of 
> experience raising other people's children. Let's not have any sort 
> of insults on this board and stick to canon to make our points. :)

Lunamk03:
It didn't sound as an insult to me... It sounded as the insight of 
someone with first hand experience in the matter. Remember, raising 
on the people's kids is not the same as raising our own kids (or so I 
guess, if I am wrong, please someone correct me) Just for the record, 
I am not trying to insult anybody with this comment, it is just my 
personal opinion. Anyways, lets get down to cannon.


> Molly has a track record of favoratism (Percy)and using humeliation 
> to control her children (howler sent into the Great Hall) 

Cannon: 
Percy (up until TOOP) never gave her so much trouble. The twins, on 
the other hand, always give her trouble (don't get me wrong, I adore 
that pair! But let's face it, they are kind of mischievous...) I am 
not justifying favoritism, but I think she wishes the twins were more 
like Percy so she can have a fairly peaceful life.
 
Howlers: I think that since the children spend most of the year in 
school away from their parents and there is no telephone to 
communicate with them, there most be a way that wizards use to preach 
their kids for their misbehavior, so they use howlers. The Weasley 
kids are not the only ones that receive howlers in the Great Hall. If 
there is someone to blame, blame the WW's parents for creating 
howlers in the first place.   
  

I'm not saying she doesn't love her children, nor am I insulting 
> mothers in general. I'm saying that Molly is ever more increasingly 
> reacting on her need to control, rather than considering what is 
> actually best for her children and Harry. What is best for him is 
to > have the attention of the man that his parents chose to be his 
legal > guardian -- a person who also seems to not a have much of a 
family > and who could have given Harry all the attention he needs as 
well as > treating him like the adult he's going to need to be to 
lead a war.> 

Cannon: they're at the brick of War, natural mother instinct: protect 
her children, keep them alive. Isn't this the best for the children? 
Her controlling mania does get exasperating at times, but 
controlling, of any kind, even if it is for our own good is always 
fastidious. She criticizes Sirius because she realizes that he is 
reckless, and she feels there is potential danger for Harry and for 
Sirius himself in there, and indeed, it proved to be so at the end.

But what Molly wants in to be in charge and to have Harry as her's -- 
>  which is sweet on the surface until you realize that one of her > 
children isn't speaking to her; the others who are old enough have > 
moved far, far away; 

Cannon: Is there any evidence in cannon of her older sons living in 
other countries because they want to stay away from their mom?  

her youngest son has major issues with being > ignored and doesn't 
ever have the basic items he needs to get a > decent education(using 
someone else's old wand is unacceptable).

Cannon: The Weasleys are a huge family with 7 kids and the only one 
with a job (to sustain the family) is the husband. Yet, they do 
manage to send all their kids to school and to give them the basic 
items for their education (of course, used books, used wands, etc, 
but it's worked so far)

Cannon about using someone else's wand: I think Neville used his 
father's wand too, so it seems to me that using or inheriting someone 
else's wand is not rare in the WW.

(Upfs! This took longer than what I thought!)
Graciously yours,
Luna