One last try (re: Parenting Harry (was: Re: I don't like him much))

[dumbledore11214]

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 Being consistent was, being forgiving
and charitable were recommended by many, but being fair wasn't high 
on anybody's list, for one obvious reason : it's often impossible. 
There are situations where it's possible, but there are also 
situations where a parent MUST be unfair. The parent is the parent, 
and the child is the child, and often this reality must be enforced 
on the child, even through unfair means if necessary. And this 
happens most often when the child must be punished : too often, it's 
not fair to punish a child, but it's necessary. When I punish my son 
because he's done something yet again even though I've told him 
three times already in the last half hour not to do it, it's not 
really fair, because he might have forgotten in the 10 minutes since 
last time, and also because he's not delibaretely trying to annoy 
me. But I *have* to punish him, or he's not going to learn not to do 
that thing, and worse he's not going to learn to obey me when I'm 
serious.





Alla:

OK, I think I have an example of what kind of fairness parent should 
have. I think (and this is of course 
just my guess :o) that when your boy will grow up, he will PERFECTLY 
understand why you had to punish him. For him looking back at his 
life as an adult, he will understand the fairness of your actions 
(and yes, of course we all screw up SOMETIMES).


I just remembered one of Snape related examples. I think that 
happened  in PS/SS, or maybe not. This was not such a serious 
offense in comparison to his many wrongdoings (in my book), but 
still a good example, IMO.

Do you remember when Harry with Ron and Hermione were outside  and 
Harry was reading the book and Snape came up to them and took points 
from Harry for reading the book outside?

Ummm, what rule was Harry breaking at that moment?

Do you think that if adult Harry will look back, he will think that 
Snape's  attitude were in any shape or form fair to him?


Oh and of course another thing - this question could sound as 
rhetorical, but it is not really. Do you agree that parent has to 
LOVE the child? I am not talking about constantly show warm,fuzzy 
feelings, but just letting the child know that he/she is loved?

Do you think that Snape LOVES Harry?