Weasley dynamics (was Re: Ron is like Percy (plus more Weasley thoughts)

[sophierom]

No: HPFGUIDX 89228

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "Doriane" <delwynmarch at y...> 
wrote:
> Debbie wrote :
> 
> > But I don't want to suggest that Fred and George bear all the 
blame 
> > for Percy's estrangement.  There's a much more complicated family 
> > dynamic at work, and probably everyone has contributed to the 
> > current state of affairs.
> > 
> > I'll stop rambling now, before I suggest that the Weasley family 
is 
> > really Ever So Evil.
> 
> Del answers :
> 
> I wouldn't say they are ESE either, but I must say I'm concerned 
> about a family where :
> 1. the oldest son took a job in Egypt
> 2. the second son took a job in Romania
> 3. the third son has cut all ties with the rest of the family
> 4. the fourth and fifth sons haven't even finished school and have 
> probably left the house too.
> 
> I wouldn't want to point at Molly, and most of all at Arthur, but 
I'm 
> not sure those two aren't responsible for the estrangement in some 
> way or another of their 5 oldest kids...
> 
> Del


Sophierom:

I'm not really sure that Bill and Charlie's far-away jobs suggest 
some sort of dysfunctional family.  Emotional closeness doesn't equal 
spacial closeness.   I live far away from my parents now because I 
can't do what I want to do in my small town of South Carolina.  And I 
would guess that Bill and Charlie needed to move away from their 
small village to pursue their careers.  Besides, in a WW where one 
can apparate or travel through a quick floo network, I don't think 
moving to Romania or Egypt is nearly as a big a deal as it would be 
in our world.

Location issues aside, I'd argue that Arthur and Molly have done a 
great job raising their sons, and all in all, their family dynamic is 
a pretty healthy one.  Indeed, I'd say that all the sons, even Percy, 
show a great deal of independence, and if anything, this is a sign of 
good parenting.  Arthur and Molly taught their sons to pursue their 
dreams and stand on their own ... even if it means being estranged or 
dropping out of school.  Not being a parent, I can't really say for 
sure, but as hard as it must be to have children living far away, 
estranged, and/or pursuing a business you don't really like (the 
twins' joke shop), Arthur and Molly should at least take some pride 
in the fact their sons are independent adults. 

Sophierom