Emotional Intimacy in the HP stories (not necessarily romantic)
susanbones2003
rdas at facstaff.wisc.edu
Sat Jul 10 22:48:05 UTC 2004
No: HPFGUIDX 105539
--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "harp66" <harp66 at y...> wrote:
> I'd like to address a related issue of intimacy, how it is
depicted
> in these stories.
>
> Is the relationship between Harry and Ron a good model of teenage
> male friendship? In GoF we learn that Ron is the person who means
> most to Harry. Is that reciprocated? And why don't they discuss
girls?
>
> And Hermione. What are community members' thoughts on the way her
> friendship with Ron/Harry is depicted in terms of sharing herself
> with them emotionally? Shared adventures aside, how deep is their
> relationship? And why isn't she shown to have female intimates? Is
> this a flaw in the stories?
>
> "harp66"
I am just getting initiated into the current world of "teen" talk
and I can tell you, the conversations I hear contain very little
emotional depth. This story follows what's in Harry's mind and heart
and we know how much feeling he has but how rarely he can
communicate it adequately. I can't get over how dead on this aspect
of the writing is. That yawning gap between Harry's inner life and
his outward experience is brilliant. That overwhelming desire to
reach out to Harry and tell him it's okay to ask for help is so full
of pathos. And, even though this group regularly seems to forget
they are children in a world that still allows for childhood,
perhaps they are talking about their lives at the level at which
they understand them. Beyond that, Harry grew up with no friends
whatsoever. Ron and Hermione are rather late introductions to his
experiences. He's taken to them well, but perhaps he's still more of
a loner than we ever seem to recognize as is perhaps, someone
suggested, Hermione. With all this said, I do not find their lack
of "deep conversation" a drawback, flaw or oversight on the author's
part. The fact that all three go into all manner of danger for each
other is much more important than talking about their emotional
lives. Actions do speak louder than words, even on paper.
Jennifer
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