R & H - More in common than meets the eye (was Hermione's reaction)

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No: HPFGUIDX 105596

Udder PD:
> Ron and Hermione fight because they are almost total opposites, 
> without Harry as the catalyst I doubt they would ever talk to each 
> other socialy. 

Jo Serenadust: 
> I'm afraid that I don't agree about Ron and Hermione being total 
> opposites.  Yes, on a superficial level, they can appear to be 
> concering things like schoolwork, Quidditch, and house-elf 
> liberation, but their conflicts arise from the fact that they have 
> so very much in common.  Both are deeply insecure (although this 
> insecurity manifests itself differently in each of them), both of 
> them are very emotional, and they are, of course, both very deeply 
> loyal to their friends. I think that they are actually very much 
> alike.  


I think my biggest issue with Harry and Hermione getting together is
the fact that, while we can argue all night about who, if anyone,
Hermione is attracted to, Ron clearly is attracted to Hermione.  Now
Ron has already had some jealousy issues with Harry, which came to a
boiling point in GoF, but, while Ron has realized that these issues
are not worth not being friends with Harry over, I don't think Ron has
necessarily gotten entirely over them.  

If Harry and Hermione get together, I think it would be just too cruel
--on both JK's part and Harry's.  I wouldn't blame Ron a bit for being
 hideously pissed off at Harry, and I would hope that both Harry and JK 
value the friendship between Harry and Ron more than that.  Even if Ron 
could get over it, it would destroy the balance in their relationship--
Harry is the centerpiece in their relationship as far as he is the leader 
and they are his sidekicks.  If Hermione becomes something more than Ron 
to Harry, it might not make Ron mean less absolutely speaking, but it
will relatively.  Ron just doesn't deserve to be made to feel any more
secondary and overlookable than he already has.

Besides, Ron is capable of standing up to Hermione's bossiness in a
way that Harry has never prooved himself capable--he's too passive for
Hermione.  I imagine that Harry would be something of whipped puppy in
a more than friends relationship with Hermione.

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