R & H - More in common than meets the eye (was Hermione's reaction)

[serenadust]

No: HPFGUIDX 105556

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, udder_pen_dragon 
<udderpd at y...> wrote:

 
> Let me start by saying that I am an 'obselete old dingbat' (63 
year old male).  
> 
> If ever a girl had said to me that I was  the most insensitive 
prat she had ever had the misfortune to meet and that I had the 
emotional range of a teaspoon, inside two minutes; I would have no 
illusions as to how much she liked me.


Well, don't feel too bad <g>.  Ron and Harry probably don't have any 
idea why she tears into Ron so very harshly either.  Hint: such 
disproportionate anger usually indicates extreme frustration.  After 
all, Ron's not even talking about Hermione.  He's talking about 
Cho.  The fact that Hermione takes what he says about another girl 
so personally (just like she did when Ron talks about asking someone 
other than Hermione to the Yule ball) doesn't suggest that she's 
trying to tell Ron she's not interested in him.  Quite the opposite, 
IMO.
 
Udder PD continues:

> Ron and Hermione fight because they are almost total opposites, 
without Harry as the catalyst I doubt they would ever talk to each 
other socialy. Can you really imagine Hermione staying home to cook 
for Ron then sitting meekly listening while he babbled on about 
Quidditch? I am digressing sorry.

I'm afraid that I don't agree about Ron and Hermione being total 
opposites.  Yes, on a superficial level, they can appear to be 
concering things like schoolwork, Quidditch, and house-elf 
liberation, but their conflicts arise from the fact that they have 
so very much in common.  Both are deeply insecure (although this 
insecurity manifests itself differently in each of them), both of 
them are very emotional, and they are, of course, both very deeply 
loyal to their friends. I think that they are actually very much 
alike.  The fact that they seem to enjoy spending  a fair bit of 
time together apart from Harry seems to show that they are pretty 
good friends.  Surely you aren't suggesting that they spend all 
their time talking about him.  I mean, I do love Harry but he's not 
all *that* interesting :-).

And where did you ever get the idea that Ron would ever expect 
Hermione to stay home and cook for him, let alone sit *meekly*?

Jo Serenadust, who has absolutely NOT written a shipping post